Not all emotionally unavailable people are life-long bachelors or bachelorettes. If you’re dating or married to an emotionally unavailable person, you probably feel that your needs and wants in the relationship aren’t being met; you may express more affection, care and commitment than you receive.
If you’re trying to become more emotionally available yourself, the following tips can help.
- Identify the cause. …
- Practice opening up. …
- Take it slow. …
- Involve your partner. …
- Spend time with people in healthy relationships. …
- Talk to a therapist.
Extremely analytical – people that focus on the facts or the analysis of an issue but never talk about feelings or express how they feel are often emotionally unavailable. Avoid affection and emotional situations – people who are not comfortable showing their emotions strive to avoid any type of emotional situation.
Consider that another reason you may be drawn to emotionally unavailable partners is that some part of you is also unavailable. Perhaps you consciously want commitment, but deep down you fear true intimacy, losing your sense of self in the relationship, or getting hurt.
What does an emotionally available man look like?
When a guy shows you his feelings (without the fear of being judged), it means that he is tune with his own feelings and is a clear sign that he is emotionally available. In a relationship, honesty is irreplaceable. He trusts you and you trust him. It’s as simple as that.
Emotional unavailability often stems from fear. Sometimes people are fearful of sharing their complete self with another person. This can be due to fear of rejection or ridicule. Other times they are fearful of getting hurt in the relationship, and so they keep people at an arm’s distance.
Emotional detachment is a psychological condition in which a person is not able to fully engage with their feelings or the feelings of others. It can be ongoing, as it is in people with attachment disorders, or it can be a temporary response to an extreme situation.
Characteristics of an Emotionally Unavailable Person
For men in particular, a consuming fear is “losing” themselves in a relationship. Those who are emotionally unavailable also tend to fear and avoid intimacy and are sensitive to the feeling of being “clung to” or controlled by their romantic partner.