Ignoring an Emotionally Unavailable Man. Does silence make a man miss you? Yes. But not in the way that you want and deserve.
Being emotionally unavailable doesn’t necessarily mean they are completely emotionless. These men can experience regret in having to make the difficult decision to breakup or not pursue a relationship. It’s also possible that men (and women) sometimes use this as an excuse to not continue a relationship.
Ignoring an emotionally unavailable man is the only way to go as long as you are going into no contact for your own emotional well-being and not as a vengeful tactician. The is no revenge that is more debilitating to an emotionally unavailable ex than your indifferent success.
An emotionally unavailable man who keeps coming back is using you. He is playing out his commitment issues at your expense. If he talked to you about this pattern, you could possibly think that at least he’s working on it. Otherwise, he’s not working on anything; he’s just doing his relationship thing.
What makes a partner emotionally unavailable?
- They don’t like making plans. …
- They call the shots. …
- You do all the relationship work. …
- They avoid the word ‘relationship’ …
- You never seem to grow closer. …
- They reflect your feelings instead of offering their own. …
- They show up late or blow off plans.
Men are often emotionally unavailable because they feel like they are not enough, just the way they are. You can give an emotionally unavailable man in your life an opportunity to “step up” by bringing out his hero instinct. The hero instinct is the instinctive need men have to step up for the woman in his life.
Treatment for Emotionally Unavailable People
If you’re involved with an emotionally unavailable person, your relationship isn’t necessarily doomed. Counseling is an option, but your partner may reject the suggestion, no matter how much you beg and plead.
Consider that another reason you may be drawn to emotionally unavailable partners is that some part of you is also unavailable. Perhaps you consciously want commitment, but deep down you fear true intimacy, losing your sense of self in the relationship, or getting hurt.
Does no contact make a man miss you?
The answer is: Yes. Your ex misses you in the very same way he was in a relationship with you… Inconsistently. … You already know this, but the purpose of no contact is to remove yourself from a toxic relationship and avoid being triggered by someone who brought you pain, so that you can heal and move forward.
Women who fall for unavailable men usually feel that they are more committed to the relationship than the men are. These women usually feel that the men have all the power and control in the relationship.